Love & Relationships

I have been reading C. S. Lewis, who wrote many things, including 'Alice in Wonderland,' and other children's stories which were deep and profound. He was also a spiritual writer, though his later thought was based in Christianity -- though I think, not what Christianity has become to so many people, but a more pure form. So many 'religions' have become politicized, warped, made into something dark and ugly, which gives people reason to hate and even kill. But there is a pure form of religion, which is more spiritual. People's actual 'beliefs' may differ -- one person may 'believe' in Jesus, another in Allah -- those are not really important -- but there can be a deep inner core, where all spiritual paths meet. We have that deep inner core here -- just find the thread that leads to it and follow it. You will end up in your Heart.

Here is some writing by C.S. Lewis that I find very deep and helpful. Perhaps you will to, especially if you are in, or considering being in, a relationship:

"The idea that ‘being in love’ is the only reason for remaining married really leaves no room for marriage as a contract or promise at all. If love is the whole thing, then the promise can add nothing; and if it adds nothing, then it should not be made. The curious thing is that lovers themselves, while they remain really in love, know this better than those who talk about love. As Chesterton pointed out, those who are in love have a natural inclination to bind themselves by promises. Love songs all over the world are full of vows of eternal constancy. The Christian law is not forcing upon the passion of love something which is foreign to that passion’s own nature: it is demanding that lovers should take seriously something which their passion of itself impels them to do.

And, of course, the promise, made when I am in love and because I am in love, to be true to the beloved as long as I live, commits me to being true even if I cease to be in love. A promise must be about things that I can do, about actions: no one can promise to go on feeling in a certain way. He might as well promise never to have a headache or always to feel hungry."
From Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis