Hi everybody,
I just wanted to add a further question to the angel message from the 7th of November. What should I do if I can't or don't want to live up to somebody's demands or expectations. Should I just say sorry, that is your problem and not mine, or try to be nice and do what is expected of me even if it is against my own intrest or feelings?
With love,
Gabi
Dear Gaby,
ReplyDeleteBe yourself not somebody else (always nice person)
First you have to love and respect yourself with your belongings and than you feel better.
O.K?
I go for holiday but see you after my one week holiday!
Elisabeth
I have a question, but I'm not sure where to post the question. I'm having a problem with two bullies at work. They tag team up on people and when they lash out, it can really hurt your feelings. I know it's not me, it's them, but I want to know some techniques for dealing with them internally addition to just thinking that. I'm not sure how to establish boundaries when one of them is supervisor.
ReplyDeleteDear Elisabeth,
ReplyDeletethank you for answering my questions. It is nice to be in the classroom and able to discuss the lessons. I am sure you are right, when we learn to love ourselfs the way we are and be happy, than everything else will come. I am just not quite there jet and still have problems to let others be themselves, stop demanding and expecting and live in peace.
Gabi
Dear Jen,
ReplyDeleteto publish your post in the classroom you can click on "the links to this post" just under the Welcome to your classroom. At the bottom of this page click onto creat a link. Than you can write and "Publish post". There might be an easier way, but it works.
Now to your question. It is very difficult to cope with bullies. To tell them what you think about them takes a lot of courage and doesn't always work. However, if they realise, that they can't hurt you, they won't enjoy their silly game. Be strong, you are not on your own. Just think the angels are with me and what ever you say, you can't hurt me. Smile!
You'll be fine. With love,
Gabi
Hello to you,
ReplyDeletecan someone give me the correct translation into German from the word bullies in the sense it is used here?
Thank you
Monika
Hi Monika,
ReplyDelete"bullying" in german means "mobbing", "schikanieren". I am not sure if there is a noun.
Gabi
Monika, I can give you the correct English words for bully as it is used here:
ReplyDeleteto bully means to intimidate another person in some way.
bully - a person who teases, frightens, threatens, or hurts others who are not as strong as he is. ("Not as strong" traditionally meant physically, but can also...as in Jen's case...mean the person is "stronger" because one of them is her supervisor...has authority over her.)
(noun) a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.
(verb) to bully - use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
Be mean to someone, bully a person, persecute, oppress, tyrannize, browbeat, harass, torment, intimidate, strong-arm, dominate.
I hope this helps, Monika.
Thank you Gabi for the translation, that helped a lot.
ReplyDeleteThank you Judy for the explanations, it is good to learn.
Love
Monika
Gabi, It is better to be disliked for who you are than liked for who you are not. Just be your natural self. Be kind.
ReplyDeleteElisabeth, have a good holiday!
Gabi, never ever never go against your own best interests and intuition. This is a sure fire road to resentment and bitterness. You are not here to live up to other people's expectations, just as they are not here to live up to yours.
ReplyDeleteGabi, dear, you are here to live YOUR story, not someone else's. Trying again and again to fulful someone else's desires leads to a loss of power, energy, and self-esteem. It leaves the little place inside you crying out, "What about me? Don't you love me? Don't I need your love too?"
The kinder you are to yourself, the kinder you actually are to others, even when they do not recognize this. It is unkind to set up unhealthy, co-dependent relationships with other people.
You have been a caregiver, helper, and nurturer for most of your life. You are now seeking to change long-standing patterns. Just as your own ego will resist this, so will the egos around you. The ego fears the loss of itself.
Continue to show up and do the work on yourself, for yourself. The angels always say they promise a clear and simple way...and not always an easy way. The easy way is to continue with the same old patterns, even when these bring suffering. This is the way of the ego and the ego is always lazy, no matter how busy it may seem. The busier someone's ego, the more exhausted and depleted they become.
To follow your own heart, you must know your own heart. We often mistake ego for heart. Ego is an expert at masquerading as heart. This is why we have the classroom and the school. It helps to bring the ego out of hiding.
Ever feel embarrassed to be revealing yourself here? Feel ashamed? Feel afraid? I assure you, you are not alone in this. You have all spent your lives trying to gain the good graces of other people...trying to be safe in a world that is always changing...trying to please other egos...and so this habit of being "good" is deeply ingrained.
You have taken a new fork in the road. Be patient, loving, and kind with yourself as walk this new way. You are learning, growing, and evolving into a NEW YOU!
Dear Indira,
ReplyDeletethank you so much for your help. I'll keep coming to school to learn from you and the angels. I know I am on the right track.
With love Gabi