I came across these words. They may be hard (for the ego) to read ... but the heart always longs for Truth. What is healing balm for the soul is an eraser for the ego. The ego (false self) is slowly and gradually erased whenever words of Truth are received and understood. The angels always tell us that words of Truth must be repeated over and over because the mind is so thick, so ingrained with false beliefs.
These words came to me today: "The trading of ego-gratification is the basis of most human relations, which uninformed humans call love and unity. A person who you think is the nicest, kindest, most loyal person on earth will abandon you instantly when: (1) You hurt his ego. (2) Cease to feed his ego. (3) Cease to serve his ego as much as someone else." - Vernon Howard
It is a great exercise for the soul to not turn away from people when they stop fulfilling our ego needs. For this, we must be astute enough to recognize when the ego takes offense or gets hurt. We cannot stop a reaction of pain, but we do not have to let that reaction of pain tell us how to live, how to act towards that person.
This is not so easy because pain speaks very loudly. The ego will insist that you take offense, get hurt, get even, turn away, get mad. The ego will insist on its own way, which is always the way of more pain. It takes a great deal of self-effort not to listen to the ego, but to the heart. It is great inner work when we can rise above the ego's demands. Life becomes less painful.
These words came to me today: "The trading of ego-gratification is the basis of most human relations, which uninformed humans call love and unity. A person who you think is the nicest, kindest, most loyal person on earth will abandon you instantly when: (1) You hurt his ego. (2) Cease to feed his ego. (3) Cease to serve his ego as much as someone else." - Vernon Howard
It is a great exercise for the soul to not turn away from people when they stop fulfilling our ego needs. For this, we must be astute enough to recognize when the ego takes offense or gets hurt. We cannot stop a reaction of pain, but we do not have to let that reaction of pain tell us how to live, how to act towards that person.
This is not so easy because pain speaks very loudly. The ego will insist that you take offense, get hurt, get even, turn away, get mad. The ego will insist on its own way, which is always the way of more pain. It takes a great deal of self-effort not to listen to the ego, but to the heart. It is great inner work when we can rise above the ego's demands. Life becomes less painful.
It took me a few days to be open to this powerful message; clearly seeing now how all/most of "work" relations fell into the ego-gratification- so depleting. Reflecting now on deeper relations; not always painless but a treasure to explore.
ReplyDeleteDebra, I am glad you are working on yourself. That is the point of the school, to allow us to use the teachings and exercises to go within, to apply them on a moment to moment basis to our life. It's not easy, but the treasure is well worth it. -Indira
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