Letting go of anger...

I came across this quote (below) -- from a Swedish father whose young son went missing many years ago. A man confessed to killing his son -- (as well as many other people, making him a serial killer) -- but years later, these turned out to be false confessions -- which meant the father still does not know what  happened to his son. I thought what Asplund (the father) said regarding this was interesting:

With his son dead and the killer still at large, does Asplund feel betrayed? He answers with another question: "What can you do about it? I don't think being angry will help me. Whatever happens, you have to focus on the future and go forward. You have to make the decision about whether you want to live or not. And if the choice is to live, you have to live your full life. You can't spend it sitting in the corner, thinking about what happened.”



This is actually a very spiritual point of view. The son is missing. His father has no idea where he is, or if he is alive. And he is right -- no matter what has happened, you still have your life. You must make a conscious decision to go forward in your life, the life you were given for your own spiritual development. 

His words, "I don't think being angry will help me" are very strong and courageous words. Anger never helps anything. 

So if this man who experienced such a great loss can make the choice to rise above anger, to live his life fully, can't we all, no matter what we have experienced? Can we learn that we are NOT our experiences -- we are not the past. The past happened in a factual way, and there are certain consequences that must be dealt with -- but carrying the grief, the sorrow, the pain, the negative emotions, even the tragedy -- with us into the present -- is like carrying a basket filled with rocks on top of your head. 

While topics like serial killing and missing children might not seem like a pleasant topic for an angel school, we do live in a world where these things happen. While there is no need to focus upon evil, we do need to study it -- to come to an understanding that it does exist. What we come to understand eventually is that while evil has "power" in this world -- that is, people can be murdered, wars do happen, arguments and unkindness are part of this world -- they do not have to have power in your inner world. All darkness gets its power from ignorance. It has no power of its own. 

If someone is saying mean words to you, doing their best to hurt you with their language and emotions -- they cannot affect you emotionally unless you yourself give them the power to do so. You are the one who invests their words with power.

Resolve today not to let yourself be hurt by the way someone looks at you or treats you. Let this resolution take root deep within you. If you are going to make New Year's Resolutions, let them be inner resolutions that uplift your spirit and develop your soul. Inner transformation leads to outer transformation and a more peaceful, rewarding life at every level. 

All my love now and always.